In the quiet of the morning before the family wakes up and the chaos ensues I read through as many blog posts and articles I can. This morning I was thrown into some deep thought by a post from Corey at Simple Marriage titled: Can you really be selfish? All it took was one sentence to put my mind in motion.
The interesting thing is … the term selfish is only used when someone else doesn’t want you to do or not do something they prefer.
This really hit home with me because “You’re selfish” is a common phrase in my household. I would go as far as to say that on average it is used at least once a day by each member of the family. If someone goes a full day without using it (most likely because they are not home) they will make up for it another day with multiple uses. That one sentence still runs through my head as I type this. It depicts a circle of selfishness both from the sender and the recipient of the word or phrase. To me it embodies much of what is in need of change in the world. We live in a society of compulsion that would be better served with compassion. Everything, everyday seems to be about getting others to do what YOU want them to do and vice verse.
My leadership style is one built on serving my team. I don’t look to compel them to do what I want, I look to guide them to do what they know and feel needs done in an efficient and successful way. Why can’t I apply that same style at home?
As Albert Einstein once said:
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.